Embracing Positivity In The World of Discontentment

In this world where there is an ambiguous level of satisfaction and perfection, it has come to a point where some individuals no longer know how to live their lives normally and peacefully. It is like they always need someone else’s opinion regarding how they look. Just take for example how young teenage girls would start planning their major nose job or breast enhancement. They would rather look like a life-size barbie than come out just the way they are.

Seeing beauty has become superficial. Both male and female have developed some form of vanity that looking at how they are now is like looking at fashion magazines. While we may see it as very neat and pleasing to the eyes, none of them may no longer be themselves as they try to portray a role to make people believe who they are.

Perfection, in a sense, has been the ultimate goal – perfect hair, perfect skin, perfect body….. The need to become a model-like figure continuously escalates as the young generation are lured into thinking that one cannot be accepted unless they re beautiful unless they are perfect.

Body shaming may have been one of the factors that affect how individuals who are not happy with how they look. They take it seriously to the point that some would just take their life in a snap. Sadly, some of those who body shame may feel that they are not good-looking themselves and that being upset about how they look, they find joy in treating others by body shaming them.

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It is unfortunate, however, that not everyone has been born to have the perfect look. And for those who are, it still doesn’t stop them from trying to modify how they look to achieve their satisfaction. Meanwhile, those who feel that they are not born beautiful go all the way in trying to figure out how they can make the “magic” happen so that they can finally be free from the “curse”.

In order to achieve the ultimate look that they want, they do certain things which do not only change their way of life but as well, as affect their relationships.

·        They start to seek for people who have the same vision as they have.

·        To support any reconstruction that they may want, it is either they work several jobs at the same time or learn how to steal.

·        Being in constant thought they are ugly has a psychological effect in which they see themselves in the mirror as someone ugly or distasteful is a condition known as body dysmorphia.

·        Welcoming thoughts of negativity and may lead to suicide.

How To Get Rid Of The Negative Thoughts

Honestly, it takes a lot of time and energy before one realizes that he/she needs help. And to push them to just have a change of heart overnight is impossible. You can, however, do it in two ways:

1.     You can talk to the person. Ask him/her what is bothering him/her. Let him/her speak up. Once he/she have opened up to you, give some valuable advice. Do not push too hard. Make a compromise.

2.     In certain situations wherein a family member or a friend may not be able to handle, it is wise to seek professional advice – an intervention wherein family members and close friends are present. The guidance of a psychologist may make it easier to talk to the person.

Unlearning Certain Habits To Create A Positive Perspective

It is indeed a long haul before anybody with this kind of outlook in life can be able to live a normal life. However, it is truly worth the while to start integrating positive tactics in life. After all, our peace of mind will make us ultimately happy in the end.

a.      Accept the kind of skin/body that you are in. Although science can help change how you look, the most important thing to keep in mind is the person inside. Beyond the physical attributes which one may see as a liability is knowing how your body moves and feels. One needs time to see who he/she really is and realize what is his/her purpose in life. Doing yoga/meditation allows one to be at peace with himself, allows better recognition of himself.

It can also be helpful to list down all the positive and negative things which you may see in yourself. Focus on the positive and find ways on how you can turn everything on the negative side into something that can help you feel good about yourself.

Even though you feel that your huge breasts may just seem to be too much, think of it this way --- there are a lot of women who spend thousands of dollars just to have breast implants, while you, you can just naturally flaunt it!

b.     Instead of always focusing on yourself, develop an attitude of truly caring for others. I am not perfect no matter how I wish I can be. But being able to do something that can have a positive impact on other people’s lives makes me feel exhilarated. Be compassionate and see the beauty in others. A lot of people need help. You don’t need to become a priest or a nun to serve others. With your own small ways, you can extend a helping hand. Just by giving food to people in the streets begging for money is a big deal. Don’t mind if they don’t say thank you. You should understand that these people are going through a lot each and every day. And sometimes, even if they don’t want to, their focus is more on the things are given to them. Just pray for them.

Avoid pointing out the flaws of others. Neither one of u is perfect. And that should be okay. Instead of making fun of an old woman in the street walking half-naked, probably you can offer something to cover up.

c.      Learn to understand that not everything that you see or read on social media is something true or good. Seeing the Victoria Secret models may make you feel ugly because they have a goddess-like figure with fair skin, nice breasts, long and silky hair, or perfect pair of legs. You cannot always make their existence as the basis of your own existence. People are different. Embrace what God has given you. You can admire phenomenal people, but you don’t have to live their lives. Love yourself. If not, no one will.

d.     Stop checking on your weight every 10 minutes. Indeed, being on the lighter side has some benefits. But, being thin should not be the goal, but rather, being healthy. There are individuals who develop eating disorders like bulimia or anorexia because they believe that they need to stay thin to be beautiful. But do they become beautiful after suffering from these disorders? Don’t they just get sick and turn into a much worse condition than before?

Choose to be healthy by eating the right kind of food and having regular exercise. Naturally, when you do these religiously, you would lose weight. Again, the only way to keep a great-looking body is by taking care of it in such a way that you avoid, sweets, salty and greasy food. In return, you develop a healthy lifestyle that you can benefit from all your life.

e.      Realize that every one of us is a unique person in which we must be able to explore our strengths and to learn how to improve our weaknesses. The perfection that a person may be looking for should not be based on what the eyes see, but on what the heart feels.

f.       Join a community where people have the same goals and aspirations. Learn from these people and adopt positive things from them. When you start to mingle with this kind of people, you will slowly realize that there is more to life than just focusing on a perfect body.

Life has so many things to offer. Do not waste your time drooling on something that you are not. Even if you have the means to make any physical changes on how you look, people would still prefer seeing the person inside you and not the superficial you.